Hitting their mid-thirties and still uncertain about relationships, sex, and love, CJ DeBarra launched into a quest for understanding…. find out more at this free event.

In this labour of love, (sex and everything in between) CJ combines their own background as an ADHD journalist with academic research, medical studies and the lived experience of other queer ADHD individuals.

In doing so, they present the most comprehensive exploration of ADHD and relationships to date – all from a queer, non-binary and trans-inclusive perspective. It covers everything from falling in and out of love to sex toys and the difficulties of dating as a neurodivergent person.

The book highlights the desperately low levels of research and healthcare options available for the Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, Queer, Intersex, Aromantic(/)Asexual, Plus (LGBTQIA+) neurodivergent community and demands that we deserve better. This book also explores why the diagnosis rates are so low for women, transgender and non-binary folk, why this matters, and why we should be demanding better healthcare.

Can I buy the book?

 Yes! CJ will have copies available to purchase at the event for £10. (Cash only but cash machines are available on campus)

About the Author

Growing up in West Cork, Ireland, CJ knew they were ADHD, but its implications remained mysterious. To write this book, they drew on academic research, medical studies, the experience of other queer ADHD individuals, and their background as an ADHD journalist.

CJ explored the raw realities of heartbreak, love, and sexuality, and delved into the complexities of desire, the impact of distractions during intimacy, the role of dopamine, and the allure of unconventional sexual experiences.

CJ launched the Notts Queer History Project in 2022. The project aims to document Nottingham’s vibrant LGBT+ history from 1960 to today.

Already, over 98 interviews with community members have been conducted. The result will be two books published by Five Leaves Bookshop in July 2024.

Learn more about CJ on their official website.

As part of Disability Recognition Month 2023 at the university.